When you are little, people always ask you the biggest question that most kids really can’t comprehend - “What do you want to be when you grow up?”. Children often naively answer something different every time: A Doctor! A Cop! A Rockstar! A Superhero! A Dancer! A Veterinary! A Firefighter! An Astronaut! A Teacher! etc; but when you actually grow up that uncertainty doesn’t feel too far from reality, sometimes we get there and we still don’t know what we should study in college, in what kind of job we’ll fit best or maybe we’re just unsure if we are meant to pursue something we already worked toward. Lucky are the ones who have the self-awareness soon enough to choose the career that’s appropriate for them. It might seem overwhelming either way and, at the end, age is just a number. We are capable of finding something that enriches us and makes us feel not only inspired or complemented but HAPPY at any point of our lives, it’s only matter of looking correctly.
The point is that we are all different, we have different tastes, different skills, different intelligence types and different personalities. It can make it harder for some of us to find our passions or to realize if our dreams are realistic to our physical abilities (i.e. we are not always capable of doing everything we wish or desire). Sometimes talent plays an important role when it is discovered and only if the person is interested on taking advantage of it. Other times talent is not enough it needs to be complemented with hard work, courage and discipline. In some cases, if you’ve found a true passion, but you’re not naturally great at it,don’t worry -practicing can help you to develop some skills and grow in the area in which you’re passionate.
IF YOU CAN DREAM IT YOU CAN DO IT!
Is there anything you’ve always wanted to do but you feel terrified to try it? DO IT! The only way to know if you are good at something is actually trying - stop playing worst-case scenarios in your mind (nothing that bad can happen - you may even make funny stories of failures that will amuse your grandkids during story-time.
Do you have a hidden talent that someone else has seen in you and you’re apprehensive about trying it out? TRY IT! Maybe they are right and maybe they are not - how would you know if you hide in the shadows of your pessimism? When we treat life more lightly and with a dash of humor, life gets easier.
Do you remember five years ago? Do you remember where you thought you’d be five years later during that time of your life? If you are having the best time of your life living the dream, congratulations - you got it right! If you are better than you thought you would be - keep doing what you are doing you’ll get there sooner or later. Don’t give up! If you haven’t started yet, START NOW to make the little changes to improve by setting your goals and taking baby steps while standing firm and believing in yourself.
WHAT ARE YOU PASSIONATE ABOUT?
Always remember nothing will stop you, when you know where you’re going. But before you can become unstoppable, you need to know where you’re starting. Before you can follow your passion, you have to find it.
If you’re feeling stuck, there are ways to discover what you really want to do with your life. Take time to work through the process and know that - no matter what, you’ll be getting closer to where you want to be.
The idea of a personal manifesto might sound a little silly on the surface. The idea is that if you can figure out where you stand on certain ideas, you might be able to flesh out a possible career or lifestyle path. Silly or not, the idea of a personal manifesto is implemented by everyone from Google to Frank Lloyd Wright. The point, as The Art of Manliness says, is to give yourself a call to action to define how you want to do things. It's easy to write your own manifesto, and while you don't have to do it in a specific way, The Art of Manliness has a few suggestions for getting started:
- Choose your topics: choose a few topics to focus on, and make them as specific as you can. Thoughts like, “My ideal working hours and days" or "Do I want to stay in the office or I don’t mind to travel?" are great for narrowing in on what kind of work you might be interested in. Describe your perfect job.
- Set down your principles: Write down your beliefs and values. It probably sounds not related, but if you've never really written down and thought about your morals or beliefs then this is a good time to do so.
Use strong, affirmative language: It's easy to write a manifesto with words like "I want" or "I should" but that's not helping you. Write it out with affirmative language like, "I will," or use the present tense with "I am."
Wait! First, do’s and don'ts in life decisions...
One of the most important things we need to understand is the fact we are not married to a certain kind of job, we might find something we like better on the way and it is ok to change your mind, to start over and choose a different profession if the opportunity comes around, if it doesn’t please don’t forget you are the one who can make it happen you and only you can put yourself out there leaving your fears aside and start looking for what you want.
GO FOR IT!
It can be hard to find our peaceful place, life is not easy and it won’t get easy just because you are not comfortable with an specific situation but it will be a lighter weight on your shoulders if you are aware of it, embrace it. Set your goals and understand you are doing everything to get where you wanted to go in the first place. Although circumstances might change, never take your eyes off the prize.
Go back and think about your abilities, focus on what you are good at, your personal interests, your skills, your knowledge areas, because it all combined make you a candidate to work in some specific or professional area.
At Embolden Jewelry we feel strongly about the idea of women being bold and letting themselves be happy and unfettered, doing what they love the most and following their passions. For that reason we’ve designed a beautiful “Follow your heart” necklace, use it as a reminder of what truly matters in life, remembering is not what you own but what you let yourself experience.